Embarking on the journey of querying your first novel is like venturing into the unknown depths of a black hole underwater. It’s a thrilling yet nerve-wracking experience that every aspiring author encounters. As someone who is recently navigating this intricate process, I’m here to share my insights on the importance of embracing rejections, finding solace in the writing community, and appreciating the wisdom from agents and publishers who truly want to see you succeed.

Let’s talk about rejections. *Insert Devil Horns*

Rejections are an inevitable part of a writer’s journey, especially when diving into the world of querying (and yes, I feel like I’m making a lot of diving and water analogies here–just go with me). While rejections can be disheartening, they also hold a hidden gift: the opportunity to grow. Each rejection is not a mark of your writing’s inadequacy, but rather a chance to refine your craft. As I received those polite, yet disappointing emails, I learned to view them as stepping stones towards improvement. Sometimes rejection letters don’t offer any feedback, which is totally okay. Some agents are just super busy reading their thousands of queries in their inbox and we shouldn’t expect them all to give feedback on every single query. Just remember that when you’re a successful author, you won’t be able to respond individually to all the readers reaching out to you, even though you really want to. Remember to have empathy!

Rejections often feel personal, but it’s crucial to remember that they reflect the subjective nature of the publishing industry. What doesn’t resonate with one agent might be a perfect fit for another. Instead of dwelling on the “no,” I channeled my energy into revisiting my manuscript, seeking ways to enhance characters, plot arcs, and prose. With each revision, I witnessed my novel evolving into something stronger and more compelling.

Want to know my favorite part about querying? The warm embrace of the writing community

In the realm of writing, a community of like-minded authors who are also in the trenches (whether they are published or not) can be a lifeline of support. Fellow writers understand the rollercoaster of emotions that querying brings – the highs of requests and the lows of rejections. Online forums, social media groups, and local writing clubs became my refuge. Critique partners have also been my saving grace. Those who have supported me know exactly who they are. Sharing experiences, swapping query tips, and offering encouragement creates a sense of fellowship that alleviates the isolation that often accompanies the querying process.

The writing community’s collective wisdom is a beacon of hope during times of doubt. When rejections seem overwhelming, I find solace in hearing stories of established authors and resilience non-published authors who faced countless setbacks before achieving success or a sense of hope. Their journeys remind me that strength and perseverance are the understructure of a writer’s path.

What about those too-close-to-home rejections? The ones that get your hopes up?

Amidst the sea of rejections (I think I need to go on an aquatic vacation. I think that’s it…), the occasional request for a full manuscript feels like a glimmering moment of hope. However, it’s important to appreciate the agents and publishers who take the time to delve into your work yet ultimately decide not to champion it. While it’s easy to feel dejected, this decision is often rooted in a deep respect for the art of storytelling.

Agents and publishers who decline despite recognizing your writing’s merit understand the critical importance of finding the right match. Publishing involves more than just a great story; it’s about a shared vision and a synergy between the creator and their manuscript’s champion. The agent’s decision is a testament to their dedication to the literary world, ensuring that every story finds its true advocate. Long story short: Trust the Process. You will find the champion you deserve.

That’s all I have for now, but I hope my ramblings help you find a sense of peace if you’re a new writer trying to be seen (and read). You deserve to be chosen and believed in–and you will be. We all will be. Just keep having faith and keep fighting.